Working Out the Kinks - On Ropes, Chains, and Other Things

Posted by Luka Thalius on September 9, 2014 at 3:35 PM

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me"


Guurl, I started saying that before Rihanna made it popular!


The worlds of kink and fetish are hard to explain, and often associated with taboos. Why? Well, they're weird to some, they can sometimes look violent, and they scare old ladies. Tell grandma not to go browsing the internet for that cream pie recipe she's been looking for or she'll have a stroke.


I'd say that a majority of society like their sex the same way my sister likes her ice cream: straight-up vanilla. There's nothing wrong with that! But if it's all you're used to, then kink looks scary. Let's shine a light on it, shall we?


Kink is an umbrella term used for any kind of sexual practice that goes beyond what we consider normal or conventional. Some of these are widely known, but there are a good many that are overlooked. They can range from BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism), Threesomes, Orgies, Scat play, or Dominance/Submission. The D/S one is more of a lifestyle, really, but that's something I'll explain in a little while.



Age play - Similar to Infantilism, in which both/all partners refer to each other as mommy/baby, daddy/daughter, etc. This does not include nor imply aspects of incest, rather the use of teacher/student roles.

Anal plugs (small and large) - These nifty devices can be used during sex and even worn publicly, underneath clothing. They can be used for pain training, or simply just for fun.

Animal roles

Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)

Aromas - Scent is a very powerful thing. Aromas can be used to sexually/mentally simulate yourself and others.

Asphyxiation (choking/being choked)

Auctioned for charity

Ball stretching

Bathroom use control


Beating (soft)

Beating (hard)


Being serviced (sexual)

Being bitten

Breast/chest bondage

Breath control


Boot worship

Bondage (light)

Bondage (heavy)

Bondage (multi-day)

Bondage (public, under clothing)

Breast whipping

Brown showers (scat)

Cages (locked inside of)


Castration fantasy


Cattle prod (electrical toy)

Cells/Closets (locked inside of)


Chamber-pot use

Chastity belts



Chores (domestic service)


Cock rings/straps

Cock worship

Collars (worn in private)

Collars (worn in public)

Competitions (with other subs)

Corsets (wearing casually)

Corsets (trained waist reduction)


Cuffs (leather)

Cuffs (metal)


Diapers (wearing)

Diapers (wetting)

Diapers (soiling)



Double penetration


Enemas (for cleansing)

Enemas (retention/punishment)

Enforced chastity

Erotic dance (for audience)

Examinations (physical)

Exercise (forced/required)

Exhibitionism (friends)

Exhibitionism (strangers)

Eye contact restrictions

Face slapping

Fantasy abandonment

Fantasy rape

Fantasy gang-rape

Fear (being scared)

Fisting (anal & vaginal)

Flame play

Following orders

Food play (cucumbers, sorbet...)

Foot worship, bedwetting, dressing, eating, homo/heterosexuality, masturbation, nudity in private/public, servitude, smoking)

Full head hoods

Gags (cloth, inflatable, phallic, rubber, tape)

Gas mask

Gates of Hell (male chastity device)

Genital sex

Given away to another Dom (permanent or temporary)

Golden showers

Gun play

Hairbrush spankings

Hair pulling

Hand jobs (giving/receiving)

Harems (serving w/other subs)

Harnessing (leather, rope)

Having food/clothing chosen for you

Head (give or receive fellatio/cunnilingus)

High heels

Homage with tongue (non-sexual)


Hot oils (on genitals)

Hot waxing

Housework (doing)

Human puppy dog

Humiliation (private/public)


Ice cubes



Initiation rites


Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage




Knife play

Leather clothing

Leather restraints

Lectures for misbehavior

Licking (non-sexual)

Lingerie (wearing)

Manacles & irons

Manicures (giving)

Massage (giving)

Massage (receiving)

Medical scenes

Modeling for erotic photos

Mouth bits


Name change (for scene)

Name change (legal, permanant)

Nipple clamps

Nipple rings (piercings)

Nipple play/"torture"

Nipple weights

Oral/anal play (rimming)

Over-the-knee spanking

Orgasm denial

Orgasm control

Outdoor scenes

Outdoor sex

Pain (mild)

Pain (medium)

Pain (severe)

Persona training (in scene)

Personality modification (RL)

Phone sex (serving Dom)

Phone sex (serving Dom's friends)

Phone sex (commercial provider)

Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)

Piercing (permanent)

Plastic surgery

Prison scenes

Prostitution (public pretense)

Prostitution (actual)

Pony slave

Public exposure

Punishment Scene

Pussy/cock whipping

Pussy worship

Riding crops

Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.)


Religious scenes

Restrictive rules on behavior

Rubber/latex clothing

Rope body harness

Saran wrapping


Scratching - getting

Scratching - giving

Sensory deprivation

Serving (as ashtray, furniture, maid, for other doms with or without supervision)

Sexual deprivation (short term)

Sleep deprivation


Slutty clothing (private)


Speech restrictions (when, what)

Spreader bars


Straight jackets

Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)

Strapping (full body beating)

Suspension (upright, inverted, horizontal)

Supplying new partners for Dom

Swallowing urine

Swapping (with one other couple)

Thumbcuffs (metal)

Triple penetration

Vaginal dildo

Voyeurism (watching others)

Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)

Video (watching others)

Video (recordings of you)

Water torture

Weight loss (forced)



I know, there's a lot going on. But if you have any questions, please feel free to ask! I'm more than willing to do the research needed to provide you with answers about these topics.


Did I miss something in this list? Send me a message or comment and I'll be sure to add it in for you! :)


If you want to add me on Fetlife, send me a message and we'll chat about it!

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